When it comes to marriage, many of us want that six pack, good looking handsome wealthy young man etc….(vice versa) to settle with. We don’t bother to check the Christianity or background of the person. As long the person is wealthy, we go for it. Beloved, who you marry matters a lot especially in the world that we are living in. Marriage is a lifetime commitment! It’s not something that you walk in today, and tomorrow you quit. Once married, you are in for it! Whatever you encounter in it, you have to face it and make your marriage work.

However it’s important we singles take our time! Never settle for anyone that just proposes. Please ladies/gentlemen, have it at the back of your mind that is not everything in trouser/skirt that you see that is God’s Will and so you don’t need to rush to say yes. Rushing can either lead to disappointment, frustration or broken marriage. It’s essential to wait on the Lord and at His own time the Bible says He makes all things beautiful. Child of God, before accepting that person, check the family first before settling in because there are some families where people die untimely, some people have curses following them, etc…..If you are not careful, you will start fighting those unknown battles too. That’s why you need to investigate the genealogy of the family you are entering into. Marriage is not something to rush into, because this could be the beginning and end of your life [Take note].

Moreover we must not be carried away by the looks or wealth of the person! Endeavor to be prayerful and make sure the Lord is leading you and not your flesh. Single lady/gentleman, there are some people who have made mistakes and wish they could turn around the clock to be single again but its too late. An example of a woman who got married to the wrong man in the Bible was Abigail. Abigail married Nabal a wealthy man who was harsh, mean, cruel (badly behaved). Abigail was a wise, discerning and beautiful woman. As I studied this passage, I took note of the meaning of Nabal’s name….what it means is ”a fool”. Abigail’s name means “My Father Has Made Himself Joyful.” I have come to realise that names as well play a great significance in someone’s life. This man Nabal was a cursed man! Can you imagine you settling down with such a man! Many of us can testify this to be obviously hell! Beloved, marrying someone because of wealth mustn’t be the reason. Marry someone who has the fear of God….every other things will follow (blessings). We see how Nabal life ended. He died of stroke.

“38 And it came to pass about ten days after, that the Lord smote Nabal, that he died.” (1 Sam. 25:38)

For better understanding please read the book of 1 samuel 25: 23-42).

Singles, are you intending to get married? As a born again Christian, marriage must start on your knees and continue on your knees. Beloved having observed some marriages, it takes hard work to keep your home. The battles some people face is horrific. Some people don’t even sleep at night because when they got married, there were some hidden agenda that wasn’t disclosed when they were engaged. The only way to overcome such captivity is by way of prayer and fasting.

“Stand fast therefore in the liberty wherewith Christ hath made us free, and be not entangled again with the yoke of bondage.” (Galatians 5:1 KJV)

“But upon mount Zion shall be deliverance, and there shall be holiness; and the house of Jacob shall possess their possessions.” (Obadiah 1:17)

I pray that we shall not be victims in Jesus Name.

Marriage is not something to rush into. Your life can become miserable because of wrong decision making. Many people are miserable today because of who they got married to. Please take note, not all that glitters is gold! There are some people who have gotten married to an occultist man without knowing. Others later found out that the person they are married to was once married! By this time, it’s late. Some have even been used for sacrifice without their knowing……This is not to scare anyone but these are things that is happening in today’s world! Who you marry can affect your destiny positively or negatively. It’s very vital you know the family you are marrying into.

Dearest, please take your time before saying “I do.” If it means investigating the person/family, please do so. Always remember to put God at the center of it all. Do not exclude God in your journey. It will save your life in Jesus Name. May the Lord bless you all. Please let us be very mindful and never allow anyone to deceive or lure you into marriage. Make sure it is God that is leading you into this lifetime journey (Marriage). For those that are saying I made a mistake, you can still make your marriage work. The Bible does not encourage divorce.

“10 And unto the married I command, yet not I, but the Lord, Let not the wife depart from her husband:
11 But and if she depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled to her husband: and let not the husband put away his wife.” (1 Corinthians 7:10-11).

You must accept your wrongs, and God will forgive you but the consequences will be there. That’s why I urge each one of you to be patient and marry right. There is no perfect marriage, every marriage has flaws but determine to seek God’s Will and plan regarding who to settle down with. God bless you all!


SOURCEViolet Chipo


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